Pick a contentious issue about which you care deeply — it could be the same-sex marriage debate, or just a disagreement you’re having with a friend. Write a post defending the opposite position, and then reflect on what it was like to do that.
So today I will talk about suicides. Or according to the daily prompt as asked above, I’ll have to not be myself and talk about it.
Suicide is the coward’s way out. No one has a right to take away their own life. It’s nature’s/god’s/your parent’s gift of life to you, and committing such a thing is a sin.
Okay I’ll stop right there as I can’t go ahead and what I wrote is ridiculous already. Time to be me again. Now you must be wondering what is this. For starters I’m an open supporter of the fact that suicides are not a bad thing. There are many issues which most humans (I also keep debating whether can use that word too, another issue in itself) have either big misconceptions or thinking is too narrow minded and backward. For instance I’m all in favour of homosexual relationships and marriage, when I being straight can pursue with a girl of my dreams, why can’t one guy/gal be with someone which they want to be? Society today is really going down the drain, despite all our advancement and so called modernity. People mistake the difference between the old ways and the new, and often stick to extremist sides of either without realizing both are necessary in the balance. There are those old fellas who can live without electricity, sure that’s possible but today does that really make any sense? That is my point.
Setting aside my rage about human stupidity and coming to the actual topic I want to emphasize, while there are many issues which are controversial today, this is one of the most personal ones. I’m going to quote an old post by Andreas on why suicide is not such a bad thing.
- The comment that appalls me most after people have learnt of someone’s suicide is “How could he/she do that to us?” First of all, every person’s mind and heart are full of secrets, so any judgement should be withheld unless that person discloses his motives. Second, nobody has an obligation to live. As nobody asked us if we wanted to be born, we don’t even have an obligation towards our parents, let alone friends, colleagues or society. I would argue that such a responsibility in the strictest sense however does not even exist towards a partner; because surely any relationship can be terminated by leaving and what else is suicide than a very unambiguous goodbye?
- A suicide is far too easily associated with failure, interpreted as an act of giving up. But many different reasons can be fathomed: A sense of having had a rich life with experiences that cannot be topped, curiosity about the act and a possible afterlife (something which should endear suicide to religious people especially), an exaggerated sense for adventure, or even to make a certain point.
- Speaking of failure, an extension of this is loneliness and depression. People often cite depression and loneliness as another big reason for it. I already made my point on it in a previous post. Being alone and lonely are not the same thing, and that the cause of depression eventually leading to suicide is often a misconception again.
But my main question is this: How can anybody associate suicide with failure unless he/she can explain what the meaning of life is? As long as there is no convincing argument about the meaning of life, leaving this life is not worse of an option than staying.
- A suicide also looks much less negative or frightening when we keep in mind that we are all going to die. No exception. Some of us will die in sleep and we don’t even know if that is as peaceful as it is usually denoted, but others of us will have a terrible disease or will be hit by a truck and bleed to death, while others might drown or step on a landmine, burn in a fire or starve.
Please excuse the drama, but are you beginning to see that choosing one’s time, place and manner of death might be quite a sensible wish after all?
- And if the social stigma of suicide was somehow removed or at least reduced, it could be done in an even more peaceful and controlled manner because then people might not feel the need to resort to jumping in front of a train or blowing up their kitchen.
- This leads us to the legal status of suicide because the whole affair would be much cleaner and less disruptive if it was legal to assist people in implementing their wish to end their life at their own choosing. I find it especially unfair and unethical that sick people are in many countries not allowed to use any assistance of this kind, while a healthy person can just grab a gun and shoot himself. This puts the old and frail and sick person (whom the law purports to protect) at a significant disadvantage versus a young and healthy person.
- It should also be kept in mind that a suicide is the one decision in life that you can be certain you won’t regret it after. This can not be said about many things in life.
When I hear of somebody’s suicide, my first reaction usually is one of admiration. To admire their courage (because logical as it may be, it’s not easy) and the determination to make the ultimate decision in life oneself. From the movie Cloud Atlas:
Α truе ѕuісіdе іѕ а расеd, dіѕсірlіnеd сеrtаіnty. Ρеорlе роntіfісаtе “ѕuісіdе іѕ аn соwаrd’ѕ асt”. Соuldn’t bе furthеr frоm thе truth. Ѕuісіdе tаkеѕ trеmеndоuѕ соurаgе.
It might be the only decision that person might have made taking control of his/her own life in their own hands, even if it’s the last/only one ever done. We are arguing for so many personal freedoms; why should we exclude this ultimate freedom, the exercise of which harms no one else’s rights?
I’m not advocating committing suicide nor planning to kill myself (at least for now haha) as I still have a lot left to do. It’s just that I don’t consider this among many other issues as a dispute, people need to widen their thinking horizons as we have more pressing issues to contemplate about. Suicide might not be the solution to a problem, but considering it bad, wrong or cowardly is pretty naive (also means you didn’t read all of the above). In fact while writing this I was reading these posts on can trauma be a gift? Live free or die hard.